Still Being Smelted

There are some triggers that I can fully anticipate and plan around. I knew, for instance, that it would be hard for me the first time after Kendall's death that I had to drive past the freeway exit to Huntsman. So I responsibly made arrangements for my sister to be the driver (we were headed together to a family reunion) and I breathed through it, albeit with…

Someone suggested to me tonight that that might be an appropriate title for my book. Her recommendation came as we were standing outside my house, shivering in the freezing cold, bathed in the glow of the flashing lights from the firetruck and ambulance that were parked out front of the house from which my family had just been evacuated. We sure continue to keep things interesting for…

When I saw an email in my inbox with this heading, my initial reaction was to assume it was some kind of spam message, something along the lines of "Holiday Greetings from Lowe's!" I'm so glad I didn't unwittingly delete or ignore it. Last week someone contacted Kendall's brother (who lives in Burbank and writes cartoons like Boss Baby and the Penguins of Madagascar) and said they…

Would it surprise you to know how excited and relieved I was when the CDC announced that the vaccine was approved for kids 5-11 years? That my youngest two were definitely going to be getting the vaccine the very first day it was possible? Here we are, a mere THREE DAYS before we'd finally "made it through," kept everyone safe through this pandemic, could sleep a little…

Can I just say that it is a little bit creepy to be designing my own headstone, especially the week of Halloween? So weird. And since it is mine as well as Kendall's marker, I'm really over-thinking every part of this, wanting it to be "just right." Personal but not cheesy, representative of both of us, not anything that feels trendy or won't wear well.... decisions, decisions.…

What a blessing to have been studying Doctrine and Covenants 121 this past week. Yes, I love the Lord's comforting words to Joseph Smith of "peace be unto thy soul; thine adversity and thine afflictions shall be but a small moment." I know that this incredibly difficult year of "smelting" will indeed pass, and all things considered will be but a small moment in my story. Despite…

Thanks, Chumbawamba. (I tell you, some of the names of these 90's bands...!) And one simply cannot think about that song without mentally finishing the phrase, of course. BUT I GET UP AGAIN. That's what we do, right? Get knocked down and then get up again? And again, and again, and again.... It's probably good that I waited until today to write this update, because yesterday I…

I recently came across my high school senior yearbook. I don't think I have looked at it or any other high school memorabilia for at least ten years. What a fun trip down memory lane, seeing faces or reading messages from so many people I have fond memories of but hadn't thought of for a long time. And check out what babies we were back then! High…

Yesterday was the six month mark. Why did this one feel so much harder than five months, or four? I don't know, but saying it's been more than half a year just feels so....long. And for some reason things feel more, well, permanent somehow. Certainly it didn't help that this week we also went through Kendall's shirts. This was the first time I've done so since he…

This past week has really been one of personal discovery for me. Not only observing a nation in mourning and sharing in remembrance with the 20th anniversary of 9-11, but it was altogether a different experience seeing all of the tributes and memorializing through my own lens of personal grief. Then even closer to home, a very dear friend of mine tragically and unexpectedly lost her significant…